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Sister mourns
soldier
Sergeant died in
crash near
'We turned to each
other for support' after losing mother early
By MATT
STILES Staff Writer
Published
Jessica Ridout and her only brother, Juan, had little choice but to stick
together.
The pair lost their mother to cancer before they began kindergarten, and they spent
much of their childhood moving to different towns and schools across the world with their
father, a Navy seaman.
So when the phone rang last month and she learned that her brother, U.S. Air Force
Staff Sgt. Juan Ridout, was in a helicopter that crashed near the
"I'll sit back, and I'll take my time," she said. "I have a strong faith
and God, and I believe that everything happens for a reason. If he's gone, then that's the
way it was meant to be. I will thank God for just having him for my 27 years."
Sgt. Ridout and nine other soldiers were on board the MH-47 Chinook helicopter
that crashed Feb. 22 into the sea during an exercise as part of Operation Enduring
Freedom. Though his body hasn't been recovered, military officials have told his family
members - many of whom live in
Carrying these emotions, Ms. Ridout and other relatives met her brother's
commanding officer Sunday. Air Force Maj. Jeffrey Staha, who had known Sgt. Ridout
five years, came from
Maj. Staha told them what they already knew: Sgt. Ridout was a dedicated soldier
who loved the excitement of his job. He was bright and funny, so much so that his fellow
soldiers gave him the nickname "Jokester." And Maj. Staha reminded them that
Sgt. Ridout had died defending freedom.
He brought with him no positive news about Sgt. Ridout's fate.
But family and friends who came to Ms. Ridout's home from as far as
Sgt. Ridout, an expert swimmer, parachutist, demolitions technician and
paramedic, exchanged gunfire with Serbian forces in May 1999 as he rescued Col. Dave
Goldfein, whose F-16 had been shot down by an enemy missile deep inside hostile territory.
"He never talked about the great things he had done," said his aunt, Connie
Lang of
Ms. Ridout's voice trembled as she read a card sent by Col. Goldfein, who
offered his sympathy and thanked her for her brother's sacrifice.
"I'm living proof of his heroism," he wrote.
During the short ceremony, the family also heard details about Sgt. Ridout's six
weeks in the
His helicopter crashed after dropping off special forces troops and equipment on
"Juan was killed in the line of duty," Maj. Staha told the group. "He
didn't die on a training mission. He died doing a deed that is required after September
11th."
Throughout the afternoon, Ms. Ridout displayed dozens of photographs of her and
her brother hugging and grinning. She also told stories about their life together. She
visited him at Kadena Air Base in
"I was really fortunate to be able to spend that time with him," she said.
Ms. Ridout said her brother spent much of his time looking out for her - and she
did the same for him.
"We turned to each other for support," she said. "When it came down to
it, my brother never stood alone if I was there, and the same with him."
There, with her pride and love, also lives the dread and loss she experienced three
weeks ago when her father, Mike, called and told her about the accident.
Ms. Ridout said the pace of the recovery effort frustrates her. She hopes Sgt. Ridout's
body is still inside the helicopter, where military officials suspect it is, so the family
can bury him in
A military salvage operation is attempting to recover the downed aircraft from 1,500
feet of water.
As time goes by, Ms. Ridout said, she'll accept the worst but still holds out
hope for a miracle.
"When I was younger, I told my brother that he would never be alone," Ms. Ridout
said. "I can't let go, as long as there is one little chance that he is out
there."